02/03/07 - Eminem's Ex-Wife Speaks out in Prime Time Inteview

BriHFL=soy una chica · 02-03-2007, 08:49 PM

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Nothing Inspires the Desire For Revenge Like Love Gone Wrong
By JUJU CHANG, LYNN REDMOND and GERRY WAGSCHAL

Feb. 2, 2007 — - Getting revenge against an ex isn't just the stuff of movies and television dramas. Not only do many people fantasize about revenge when their relationships end, you might be shocked by just how many actually act on those fantasies.

New York divorce attorney Suzanne Bracker cautions couples about their dark impulses, but says that unfortunately, they don't always listen.

"In every single case I have my clients tell me how he or she wants to exact revenge on their ex," Bracker said.

Watch the full story on a special edition of "20/20" Friday at 9 p.m. ET

Bracker says that both ordinary people and celebrities want revenge against their former lovers. One person who says she experienced the devastating impact of a lover's revenge is rapper Eminem's ex-wife, Kim Mathers. Recently divorced for the second time, Mathers sat down for an exclusive interview with "20/20's" JuJu Chang to set the record straight about her bad girl image and her near 20-year love-hate relationship with the rap icon.

'Constant Infidelities'

"Money is great, but it doesn't make your husband stay at home with you," said Mathers. "Or sleep in the same bed with you … Him being on the road and on tour … that was like the big one. I mean … constant infidelities, all the time," she said.

The difficult times were a far cry from the early years of the couple's relationship. When the two first met, Mathers was 13 years old and Eminem was 15. They were two kids from troubled families who vowed to always protect each other. "If he got kicked out, then I would walk the streets with him until he found a place to live, or if I got kicked out, he was always there for me. It was just a close connection," said Mathers.

But that connection suffered when Eminem found stardom as a rapper. When he hit, he hit big. Success transformed him into hip-hop royalty, and with fame, came trouble.

Tough Times

"He would constantly try to belittle me and make me think, like, I should be grateful, basically, that he was with me," said Mathers.

Through two marriages, their volatile bouts of jealousy and revenge played out under the glare of the media. Eminem pistol-whipped a man he claims was kissing his wife, and was slapped with a weapons charge. Mathers' public struggles with cocaine kept her in and out of court and rehab. And Mathers admits to having had her own affairs.

"I had low self-esteem," she said. "I just really wanted attention and love from somebody."

Couples therapist and author Terrence Real says men and women express revenge differently.

"When women do seek revenge, it is often sexual revenge. With guys, it's out-and-out harm," said Real.

'I Was Humiliated'

Mathers said she felt the most powerless in the summer of 2000, when Eminem called her a tramp in his song "Kim." The graphic and violent lyrics, which Eminem says were never intended to be taken literally, depict him pretending to kill her.

"I was embarrassed. I was humiliated. I cried," said Mathers. "This is supposed to be a man that loves me, and is supposed to protect me … from being hurt, and here he is disrespecting me in the worst way possible in front of millions of people, and in front of our kids, my family, my friends," she said.

But Mathers adds there was still more revenge to come. Soon after the song's release, she says Eminem promised her he wouldn't perform it at a hometown concert.

"And sure enough, he decided to do that song, and not only perform the song, but use blow-up dolls to re-enact … me being choked … just [doing] disrespectful things to the blow-up doll and then [throwing] the doll into the crowd," said Mathers. "Just watching everybody else singing the words and laughing, jumping around … I couldn't take it."

Mathers says that the betrayal drove her right over the edge. "I made it home," she said, "and I went upstairs in my bathroom and I slit my wrists and ended up in the hospital."

Real says that performing the song was a clear example of an abuse of power on Eminem's part. "Well, it's saying, 'I own you, I'm lord, you have no power, and I will do with you what I what I want to with you,'" he said.

Getting Past Revenge

Real says the most important lesson is that lovers' revenge might sometimes feel good, but it's never a winning solution.

Mathers believes she is finally free from the destructive cycle of jealousy and revenge. She's now a suburban single mom, raising two daughters along with a niece and nephew, all the while working towards a career in interior design.

"I am not trying to bash Marshall or make him look bad, [I] just, you know, want people to know, I am a person, too,"said Mathers. "I am trying to move forward with my life."

Eminem provided this statement to "20/20" through a spokesperson:

"For the sake of our children that we raise together, I have made a decision to not participate in matters such as this."

Nikelz · 02-03-2007, 08:52 PM

thanks, didnt know anything about this

heat27 · 02-03-2007, 08:59 PM

Propzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

BriHFL=soy una chica · 02-03-2007, 09:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Da King Hotnikelz

thanks, didnt know anything about this

Me neither, it came on tv Friday...hate to say it but she sounds really sincere, I feel for her, just a little bit :(

All Ready The MVP · 02-03-2007, 09:15 PM

Propssssssss

Eazy-T · 02-03-2007, 09:22 PM

Prrrrrrrrrrropz

NEWSKULL · 02-03-2007, 09:50 PM

She need to write a book and get over it

Ballllllllllllin' · 02-03-2007, 09:51 PM

propzzzzzzzzzz

Face.The.Pain · 02-03-2007, 10:07 PM

Madd propz on this son

ns_diplomat · 02-03-2007, 10:14 PM

propz.......

Me > You · 02-03-2007, 10:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BriHFL=soy una chica

Me neither, it came on tv Friday...hate to say it but she sounds really sincere, I feel for her, just a little bit :(

parts of it sound sincere but other parts sound biased and based on her opinion.

Kim has no loyalty to her kids being on TV like that. She wants money.

Edit: Oh, and she's definitely jealous of Em/Haile relationship. Look at the way she throws her eyes up when shes talkin about them. Plus, she never says Hailes name, just calls her 'she'. Kim has two children from another relationship with a different guy as well.

one8seven · 02-03-2007, 10:50 PM

lmfao...em pwn'd her bad

crodski · 02-03-2007, 11:03 PM

i thought em got custoday of the kids so why did it say she was raising them by herself?

g-unitsoldier13 · 02-03-2007, 11:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by NEWSKULL

She need to write a book and get over it

^^^^Funny shit right there. Co-sign

MC B STREETZ · 02-03-2007, 11:14 PM

she looked aiight in the second pic

DJ Whoo Kid · 02-03-2007, 11:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by NEWSKULL

She need to write a book and get over it

If the book wasnt a reflection on Eminem's relationship it wouldnt sell.

No one wants to hear about her hard times, as harsh as it sounds, theres a million women claiming the same thing Kim is claiming.

Gbones · 02-04-2007, 12:49 AM

wow good shit right there

-Grizzly- · 02-04-2007, 12:59 AM

WOW this on tha local news all tha time here in detroit i fuckin hate......they report about every little detail about his life........fuck eminem....

BucksWifey · 02-04-2007, 01:17 AM

um...the only sympathy i feel for her is for the for tha song...sorta...
If you read between tha lines...its just his way of lettin everyone know how much he loves her. either way tha lyrics were harsh but Em spits tha truth.
and It can go either way cause some women would find this song flattering...and others dont!
They are both to blame for their divorces...but seriously its like she hates that he is who he is now! But its not all about her! And hes a good father!

MVP07106 · 02-04-2007, 01:30 AM

Damn, Em styled on that bitch.

Fiddy uk · 02-04-2007, 01:35 AM

Propz.......

THREATS · 02-04-2007, 02:08 AM

thye got issues.

MoneyMike537 · 02-04-2007, 02:32 AM

Damn, is it always the men's fault?

dastreetsweepa17 · 02-04-2007, 03:18 AM

Propssssss man

adj23 · 02-04-2007, 05:26 AM

she shud ov gone on tour wid him...

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Watch the full story on a special edition of "20/20" Friday at 9 p.m. ET Bracker says that both ordinary people and celebrities want revenge against their former lovers. One person who says she experienced the devastating impact of a lover's revenge is rapper Eminem's ex-wife, Kim Mathers. Recently divorced for the second time, Mathers sat down for an exclusive interview with "20/20's" JuJu Chang to set the record straight about her bad girl image and her near 20-year love-hate relationship with the rap icon. 'Constant Infidelities' "Money is great, but it doesn't make your husband stay at home with you," said Mathers. "Or sleep in the same bed with you … Him being on the road and on tour … that was like the big one. I mean … constant infidelities, all the time," she said. The difficult times were a far cry from the early years of the couple's relationship. When the two first met, Mathers was 13 years old and Eminem was 15. They were two kids from troubled families who vowed to always protect each other. "If he got kicked out, then I would walk the streets with him until he found a place to live, or if I got kicked out, he was always there for me. It was just a close connection," said Mathers. But that connection suffered when Eminem found stardom as a rapper. When he hit, he hit big. Success transformed him into hip-hop royalty, and with fame, came trouble. Tough Times "He would constantly try to belittle me and make me think, like, I should be grateful, basically, that he was with me," said Mathers. Through two marriages, their volatile bouts of jealousy and revenge played out under the glare of the media. Eminem pistol-whipped a man he claims was kissing his wife, and was slapped with a weapons charge. Mathers' public struggles with cocaine kept her in and out of court and rehab. And Mathers admits to having had her own affairs. "I had low self-esteem," she said. "I just really wanted attention and love from somebody." Couples therapist and author Terrence Real says men and women express revenge differently. "When women do seek revenge, it is often sexual revenge. With guys, it's out-and-out harm," said Real. 'I Was Humiliated' Mathers said she felt the most powerless in the summer of 2000, when Eminem called her a tramp in his song "Kim." The graphic and violent lyrics, which Eminem says were never intended to be taken literally, depict him pretending to kill her. "I was embarrassed. I was humiliated. I cried," said Mathers. "This is supposed to be a man that loves me, and is supposed to protect me … from being hurt, and here he is disrespecting me in the worst way possible in front of millions of people, and in front of our kids, my family, my friends," she said. But Mathers adds there was still more revenge to come. Soon after the song's release, she says Eminem promised her he wouldn't perform it at a hometown concert. "And sure enough, he decided to do that song, and not only perform the song, but use blow-up dolls to re-enact … me being choked … just [doing] disrespectful things to the blow-up doll and then [throwing] the doll into the crowd," said Mathers. "Just watching everybody else singing the words and laughing, jumping around … I couldn't take it." Mathers says that the betrayal drove her right over the edge. "I made it home," she said, "and I went upstairs in my bathroom and I slit my wrists and ended up in the hospital." Real says that performing the song was a clear example of an abuse of power on Eminem's part. "Well, it's saying, 'I own you, I'm lord, you have no power, and I will do with you what I what I want to with you,'" he said. Getting Past Revenge Real says the most important lesson is that lovers' revenge might sometimes feel good, but it's never a winning solution. Mathers believes she is finally free from the destructive cycle of jealousy and revenge. She's now a suburban single mom, raising two daughters along with a niece and nephew, all the while working towards a career in interior design. "I am not trying to bash Marshall or make him look bad, [I] just, you know, want people to know, I am a person, too,"said Mathers. "I am trying to move forward with my life." Eminem provided this statement to "20/20" through a spokesperson: "For the sake of our children that we raise together, I have made a decision to not participate in matters such as this." __________________ "Originality....not sold in stores"

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BucksWifey DDB*s Freak Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 584 Repped: 97 Repped 47 Times in 11 Posts Neg Reps: 0 Neg Repped at 0 Times in 0 Posts	um...the only sympathy i feel for her is for the for tha song...sorta... If you read between tha lines...its just his way of lettin everyone know how much he loves her. either way tha lyrics were harsh but Em spits tha truth. and It can go either way cause some women would find this song flattering...and others dont! They are both to blame for their divorces...but seriously its like she hates that he is who he is now! But its not all about her! And hes a good father!

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